人生这样一来的选择，是挑错伴侣

After that, she simply hid and hung up the phone with her family.

张女士并不知道，正因如此只希望着母亲不顾家，好吃懒来作，为了抚养两个小孩可以隐忍，却没人希望到他才会自以为是卑鄙到如此近乎。

Ms. Zhang said, in the past just thought of her husband to ignore the family, lazy, in order to take care of two children can endure, but did not expect him to despicable shameless to such a point.

世上上比贫困家庭来得吓人的坏事，是心难为。

The most terrible thing in the world than poverty, is poor heart.

巴菲特曾并不知道：

Buffett once said:

你光阴最重要的决定，是跟什么人完婚。在同样伴侣上，如果你扯了，将让你伤亡很多。而且，伤亡无疑是金钱上的。

The most important decision in your life is who you marry. You can lose a lot if you are wrong in choosing a mate. And the damage is not just monetary.

你总有一天不并不知道，一个扯的伴侣，才会把你推入怎样的地狱。

You never know how far you can go with the wrong partner.

心难为的真情人，志气难为

文学家方莹曾并不知道：

Writer Fang Ying once said:

贫困家庭对一个人来并不知道并不吓人，吓人的是贫困家庭而不终，难为而不思变，难为而安于现状，甚至不论如何。

Poverty is not terrible for a person, terrible is poor without knowing it, poor without thinking of change, poor and content with the status quo, even accept fate.

《我的前半生》中的的虹即是如此：

This is true of white Light in The First Half of My Life:

一难为二白却不肯过踏实日子，只希望新创“赚大钱”。

Poor but do not want to live a solid life, just want to start a business "make a lot of money".

结果，倒卖蔗糖亏了三万，倒卖手串亏了两万。

As a result, reselling tea lost thirty thousand, reselling hand string lost twenty thousand.

赔光了也没人关系，催着老婆罗等价跑完几趟有钱的姊姊家，钱其本质就来了。

It doesn't matter if he loses all, he urges his wife Luo Ziqun to run several times to her rich sister's house, and the money will come naturally.

每当罗等价劝止虹认清想像，虹就大动肝火，把一切扯误落到罗等价躯上，贬得她一文不值。

Whenever Luo Ziqun advised the bai guang to recognize the reality, the bai guang was enraged, put all the mistakes to Luo Ziqun, she was worthless.

他偏偏，心中的他自并不认为廉价、有心他难为的妳，也曾是一个并不认为贫贱夫妻饮水饱，救人扎进婚姻生来生的特质女孩。

He forgot, at present he thinks cheap, disliking his poor woman, also once was a firmly believe that poor cheap husband and wife drink enough water, regardless of personal danger into the marriage of the perceptual girl.

可他体会她的，却只有总有一天借不完的债和看不到将会的无助。

But he brought her, but only forever borrow debt and can not see the future despair.

心难为的真情人，一般而言才会被贫困家庭捆绑和死对头一生中，最终只剩震怒和麻木。

Heart poor man, often will be poor tied and entangled life, and finally only dissatisfaction and numbness.

他才会毁坏你对婚姻生来生的所有欣慰，把你推入劳碌无休的地狱。

He will destroy all your expectations of marriage and drag you into the abyss of toil and toil.

他总有一天也终究不到，让他在难为里滚还好躯的，不是时运不济，而是他自己。

he would never realize that it was not bad luck, but himself, that kept him in poverty.

心难为的真情人，欲壑难填

还有一种心难为的真情人，欲望极高，能力却低。

There is also a poor man with high desires but low abilities.

婚姻生来生，便成了他们掠取资富、赚取权益的方法。

Marriage has become a tool for them to plunder wealth and earn profits.

见过这样一个体育新闻：

Read such a news:

研究生猪哥亮不顾家人谴责，许配了没人房没人车也，也给不起彩礼的班上细某。

Xiaoyan, a graduate student, married a classmate surnamed Bo, who had no house, no car and no bride price, despite her family's objection.

婚礼在商住出席，猪哥亮并不认为有情饮水饱，可她的终能，却让细某“心难为”的本性慢慢地渗入。

The wedding is held in rented house, xiaoyan firmly believes that sentient beings drink enough water, but her relentlessness, but let him some "heart poor" nature gradually exposed.

细某希望要买房，还好猪哥亮并不知道夫家要首付。

Bo wants to buy a house, let Xiaoyan ask her parents to down payment.

“我一个独生子为你来到南方，你爸却并不知道不应资助点？”

"My only son came south for you. Shouldn't your father help?"

母亲刚出生，负债还没人结清，他又希望一大笔钱也。

His daughter had just been born, his mortgage was still unpaid, and he wanted to buy a car.

“买辆10万的不如不买，我同事都30万的车也，丢人不！”

"Buy a 100 thousand is inferior not to buy, my colleague all 30 thousand car, disgraceful not!"

之后他希望去外地新创，不为所动要把房子买回，猪哥亮依然同样改变现状，为他借下十万贷款。

He wants to go to another place to start a business later, be determined to sell the house, XiaoYan still chooses compromise, borrow next hundred thousand capital for him.

可猪哥亮的即刻的支持，事与愿违的是细某的狂妄。

But xiaoyan's unconditional support, in return for the ingratitude.

他在出差的京沪高速铁路上与95后的小三偶遇，指着卖房的两百多万和小三花天酒地，猪哥亮却为他欠下的债款节衣缩食。

He fell in love at first sight with his wife born after 1995 on the high-speed train on a business trip. With more than 2 million yuan of the house sold, he indulged in a wild life with his wife, but Xiaoyan was frugal for the debt he owed.

之后，得知真相的猪哥亮万念俱灰，烧炭被害。

Later, the Xiaoyan that is informed the truth is despondent, commit suicide by burning charcoal.

细某并不知道后，只冷冷地并不知道了一句：“苏醒了吗？”

Knowing this, Bo asked coldly, "Did you die?"

猪哥亮躺进ICU的时候，他却在和小三拍电影婚纱照，大大方方地公之于众。

While Xiaoyan was lying in the ICU, he was taking wedding photos with his mistress, which were openly released to the public.

一腔深情，却是为他人来作嫁衣。

A cavity deep feeling, it is for others to do wedding clothes.

心难为的真情人，自私自利。你把他当真情人，他却只把你当块肥肉。

A poor man is selfish. You treat him like a lover, but he treats you like a piece of fat.

他们欲壑难填，享不知满足。争你的资，也可以为一点蝇头小利将你的最终一丝实用价值压榨干净。

They never get enough. Take money from you, or squeeze the last bit of value out of you for pennies.

完婚要慢，婚后要极快

母亲赵明诚死后，年过半百的代表作品七律躯心憔悴，迷茫无依。

After the death of her husband Zhao Mingcheng, li Qingzhao, a talented woman over 50, is gaunt and lonely.

这时，一个叫张汝舟的真情人杀入了她的生来生，百般断然拒绝。

At this time, a man called Zhang Ruzhou broke into her life, show kindness in every way.

七律以为寻到自是，能已久托付一生中，没人希望到张汝舟却只为她的私有资产而来。

Li Qingzhao thought to find her lover, can entrust life, did not expect Zhang Ruzhou but only for her property.

婚后，张汝舟推断出七律并没人有曾有传得那么极富，对七律愈发冷淡，甚至到了拳脚相加的近乎。

After marriage, Zhang ruzhou found that Li Qingzhao is not as rich as the rumor has it, and increasingly indifferent to Li Qingzhao, even to the point of fist fight.

那个八十年代，妳要求婚后，才会被人指着鼻子唾骂，甚至律法也不允许。

In those days, women who asked for a divorce were spat at, not even by the law.

但得知所受骗的七律，却也纳冒天下之大不韪，举报张汝舟伪造履历骗取读书人。

But that cheated Li Qingzhao, but also willing to brave the world, report Zhang Ruzhou forged resume cheating fame.

宁可玉石俱焚，也不肯与人渣将就。

It's better to burn than to settle with scum.

最终，渣男张汝舟被判流放，四人三个月的婚姻生来生结束。而七律在老朋友的帮助下，只坐了九天馀就设法狱友。

In the end, zhang Ruzhou, a cheating and philandering man, was sentenced to exile and their three-month marriage ended. With the help of her friends, Li qingzhao was released after only nine days in jail.

一时的施法，换成自己后半生的潇洒自由，七律可谓来生得通透。

A moment of guidance, for the rest of his natural and unrestrained freedom, Li Qingzhao can be said to live fully.

真情自己的最好手段，是不起先，不改变现状，不将就。

The best way to love yourself is not to settle, not to compromise, not to settle.

别拿命去发财真情，别拿余生去发财婚姻生来生。

Don't bet your life on love, don't bet the rest of your life on marriage.

如果这段婚姻生来生体会你的是无尽的苦痛和耻辱，一定要及时断舍离，千万别和污泥婚姻生来生死对头。

If it brings you endless pain and shame, get out of it and don't get stuck in a junk marriage.